My father loved me so much that he had me on a pedestal. If I was uncomfortable with this, I was a bad daughter because who would not want to be loved so much that you were raised by virtue of that love above the ordinariness of humanity? There was no man good enough for... Continue Reading →
The Proof and The Burden
I guess it started when I was nine and my classmate pulled up my skirt in the playground. I discovered two things: that this world is definitely biased against whoever dares to question the status quo; and that I was never going to be 'normal' enough to keep quiet for long. That afternoon... Continue Reading →
Women and Mothers, Teachers and Warriors
Women. We are all daughters. Some of us are sisters, mothers, wives, girlfriends, best friends and lovers. We are powerful in and of ourselves. We bear life. We sustain relationships, families, nations, empires. I want to say thank you to each and every one of you, my sisters, my fearless warriors. In spite... Continue Reading →
Mom Hair. Why Women Cut Their Hair and Why I Didn’t Cut Mine.
Last week, a woman who used to be my neighbour complimented me on my look, saying that I looked younger with the longer hair. I smiled and thanked her. It got me thinking about the times in the last three or four years that I've been asked why I didn't cut my hair to... Continue Reading →
The Price of Perfection
I realise that I can only speak from my experience, although I know for a fact that most Spanish women of my generation would probably agree. There are many subtle ways in which I still detect harsher judgment being passed on women than on men. We are still, in some ways, at a liminal stage.... Continue Reading →
‘Double Standards Cannot be Changed By Trying’
Disclaimer: I do not hate men nor make them responsible for all the evils of the world. I have two wonderful sons and a marvelous man in my life. This is about society in Spain. We are no less feminine because we own our destinies. What man likes a woman who can't get along without... Continue Reading →
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